Interacting with other women, I realised that to juggle a lot of responsibilities is increasingly normalised. The more you do, the more celebrated you are as a strong woman and the less you do then the less celebrated you are as a capable woman.
It is a new era and woman have opportunities now, they can do almost anything they want to do and push boundaries to achieve what some might consider the unthinkable. As a woman you push harder and work harder to prove yourself as an equal in any arena.
Last night, I decided to call a close friend of mine at 10 pm. I have wanted to catch up with her for some time now and hadn’t had the time to do that plus she’s also quite busy during the day.
Our conversation quickly led us to the pressures of being a modern mom: how we are just expected to be supermoms and the critics attached to the end of that line. We both admitted to each other that we are struggling to keep up with both our duties while chasing your dreams at the same time.
One of those aspects ultimately suffers.
The one thing that we were in agreement on, that we have seen other mothers experience is the mounting mom guilt. I can even see it within my own family how challenging it is to balance the scales.
Social media doesn’t help either, with the perfect motherly narrative and balancing act some mothers put out there. On the one hand, we can look at it as a positive aspect; that if other women are telling a story that it possible to do it, then it probably is, but what creates a cause of thought is: while we can see that it is possible to be a successful mom, wife and career woman in all these images, it’s very seldom that we hear how it is achieved. I love seeing women, especially mothers succeed and bask in their glory while the world watches on in awe.
I would also love to hear the background war stories, as those are also inspiring.
They make the triumph you see real and attainable. They give hope and often solutions to challenges you didn’t know how to get through.
The thing we don’t hear within our society is that it is ok to struggle, not that you should accept defeat but that you are not a bad person for going through challenging times.
Everyone is struggling with one or other facet of their lives. It is not all a walk in the park. The sooner we all just live authentically, the better for ourselves. It’s important to realise that not everything can be accomplished 100 percent all at the same time. Some aspects of your life will take a backseat for a while as you prioritise and focus on other things. In no way is it okay to slack off, I am saying it is okay to be human and figure your life out pertaining to what is best for you at the time. We don’t all have the same resources and support structures. All we can do is work with what we have to build ourselves, ignore (to the best of our ability) the peanut gallery and always remember that YOU are a great MOM!
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