Growing up, I was deemed very popular and sociable. A phenomenon that I didn’t try hard to get yet benefited greatly from. I only realised it was a sought after position when random guys I knew would approach me to help them get people – sometimes a specific girl- to notice them enough to want to get to know them.
I thought it strange at first until I did some introspection coupled with people watching and realised pretence aside, some guys could benefit from a few tips on how to be easily sociable without the awkward moments.
Be informed with current affairs
Be informed with current affairs so you can engage in any social setting, with people of different age, gender and background. Social settings require engaging and being well informed puts you in a position to be involved with sharing opinions, giving insight and correcting those who are misinformed. Being well informed makes you a good participant for social games such as 30 seconds.
Remember people’s names
Make it a point to remember people’s names. Putting in effort to remember names of people you engage with goes a long way. People love being acknowledged and remembering someone’s name after you first met allows for a positive engagement the 2nd time around. This may not be a big deal to others who are concerned about the cake but this is that cherry on top that is appreciated by those who have a thing for presentation.
Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself
Learn to laugh at yourself when necessary. Being laughed at is not always a bad thing when considering what it is, others are laughing at. We all have “blonde moments”, and it is ok to laugh at yourself with others. Some situations do not require you to be uptight but rather lighten up the mood and create a fun moment which then becomes an enjoyable memory for everyone.
Have clear standards and values
Always have clear standards and values that you set for yourself and others to respect. It is important for you to abide by these standards and values for people to respect them. You teach people how to treat you by how you carry yourself and not just what you say. When people respect one another’s standards and values, relationships last longer.
Be able to have hard/uncomfortable conversations with others
In a world with billions of unique individuals, learn how to engage with others in hard and uncomfortable conversations. There are many sensitive topics such as religion and politics, that you should be able to engage in, without getting upset when there is a disagreement. You need to learn to respect other people’s opinions even when you don’t share the same views.
Invest effort in your appearance. When you look good, you feel good and that energy feeds into any social gathering. Personalities are expressed in how we dress, wear our hair and accessories we put on. Every other tip may go unnoticed if you are not presentable because people make up their minds on whether to receive you or shut you out from the moment they see you. Unfortunately, that’s the world we live in.
It’s always good to listen more than you talk. You’ll always learn something new whether you agree with it or not. It lets you in the mind of those you are socialising with and shows acknowledgement for others. When others are talking, let them finish without interjecting. Disregarding others creates awkwardness that makes it hard to experience the benefits or potential that exists between the individuals concerned.